I have a hero. No, this one’s not Hawaiian. She’s a slender little blonde from New York. I’ve never met her, and she doesn’t write romance novels. Geneen Roth writes and speaks about her life-long struggle with eating, and how she finally made peace with her body and with food.
The header of her website has this quote. ‘We don’t want to eat hot fudge sundaes as much as we want our lives to be hot fudge sundaes.’ Well, yes, and can I just dive in head first and stay? Don’t bother throwing me a spoon, I’ll just slurp it up.
What this quote really says to me is that I am a sensual being, and I require a lot of sensory gratification. You know, things like soft, silky, warm, cool, crisp, icy, peppery, beautiful, comforting, enveloping, relaxing, energizing … the trouble is, I too often try to find all of these in food.
Which is why those fabulous diet regimens never worked for me. Tell me I can’t have it, and I want three, just to make sure I don’t miss out. Geneen’s advice is to eat exactly what our bodies crave, and stop when we’ve had enough. So simple, and yet we distort it with ‘eat 4 ounces of this, don’t eat any of that because it’s bad for you, never eat after this time or before this time, always eat 3 of these a day’. Augghh!
If I’m cold, I go find a sweater or turn the heat up. I don’t berate myself for being cold, or tell myself that children in Africa are sweating right now, so I should be grateful for the cold.
So … why do we do that when we want a hot fudge sundae? If that’s what we want, we should have one, not a celery stick. One hot fudge sundae will not make or keep us fat. And if we can trust ourselves to reach for what we truly want, then, maybe when we do want a celery stick we’ll eat one or two and enjoy the cool crunch, instead of reaching for a bag of something greasy because tomorrow we’re going on a diet and we can’t have it then so we have to have it now … Sound familiar? If it does, try one of Geneen’s books, or just one of her columns. http://geneenroth.com/
Then maybe you can relax, and reach for another of life’s sensory pleasures … a great romance! ‘Cause they have no calories—yay! Although some are so satisfying we’d swear they must.
What’s the best sensual pleasure you plan to treat yourself to in the New Year? (Yeah, besides that. We can’t talk about that here, lol) Leave a comment!
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