Confession Time

Tomorrow I start...Beckett and Amy are coming...unless I change her name, which I might do...

I usually love starting a new story, but I'll let you in on a little secret. I'm terrified that with a baby to play with, I might not have the hours in the day to do everything...

TRS Book-a-day Giveaway

Par For The Course is up today at The Romance Studio (go win a free copy)

...and I'm blabbing over at Rose City Romance Writers

Book In A Week

The Official Book In A Week Group is having the program this week, Aug 11 - 17. My folks have the small boys, so it's just me and the baby girl. Think I can write a book in a week with a 3 month old baby?

If I do, I'm alerting the Guinness people. The beer or the world records, I'd deserve both!

Saturday Signing

I'm heading to the coast this weekend for the Lincoln City Book Fair to sign For Kicks. I haven't had a signing with it yet - there was a mix-up and they didn't have it at the Readers Luncheon. I'm nervous...more for how I'm going to manage the baby and boys than meeting people. I like people who read, so that's not an issue. But the baby will give me 90 minutes at most...and I need to be there from 11:30 until 3. So...I'll let you know how it goes. Or you can stop by and find out for yourselves!

I'll be in the plaza right next to Bob's Beach Books. The address of the store is 1747 NW Hwy 101, Lincoln City. (Weather willing, otherwise the backup is St. Augustine's a few blocks south at 1139 NW Hwy 101)

Animal Personalities

Y'all know how I love my Point and Click Characterisation. And my addiction to wed quizzles. I don't know what it is about finding boxes to fit in, you know, so I can break out of them...

Anyway, I hadn't seen this one. Unfortunately it's in a book (PUT YOUR BIG GIRL PANTIES ON AND DEAL WITH IT) and not online for me to point and click. Still, I thought it worth blogging about...and I'm no the kind of blogger who talks Cheetos and dryer lint.

Golden Retrievers : Warm, supportive, caring. Enjoy interaction with others. Avoid confrontation, find harmony through compassion and empathy. Excell in kindness, affection. Social workers, nurses, teachers, personal coaches.

Otters : Spontaneous, playful, sensual, lovers of life. Thrive on recognition. Big hearts. Can work tirelesly when fascinated, not bogged down by details. Dreamers, intuitive. Writers, painters, actors, dancers.

Horses : Love to run, feel their muscles. Physical, enjoy training. Grounded in theit bodies. Use sports ri celebrate their energy. Gymnasts, bikers, hikers, runners, personal trainers.

Foxes : Natural persuaders, quick-thinking, chameleon-like ability to blend and identify with
others. Tuned in to others needs, preferences. Negotiators, sales, clergy, PR, entertainers, relationship coaches.

Lions : Takes pride in family and point of view. Goal-oriented. Confident, love to win. People feel protected by lions. Sometimes impatient. CEOs, military, surgeons, pilots, managers, entrepreneurs.

Beavers : Love information and analysis. Research and review. Analytical, methodical. Work at their own pace, which some think is slow or redundant. Purposeful, deliberate, patient. Historians, accountants, judges, scientists, IT professionals.

Owls : Enjoy conceptual thinking and long range planning. Sometimes called impractical. Like problem solving, not implementing solutions. Like to play what if... Philosophers, economists, professors


So...in the words of Miss Moo...who are you and what do you do?

SAVING THE LEMONADE :: Knowing when NOT writing is the best thing to do

Writing isn’t like other jobs where you can take sick time, bereavement leave or my old favorite, mental health days. When your world swirls down the toilet, you’re stuck with blinking cursor, mocking you and your attempts to feel something other than horrid.


Last summer my life and career as an author hit a crossroads. I’d been struggling to work with a new editor, had two grandparents in the hospital, and needed to move to a bigger house. For once in my life, I decided to put myself first, opting to use the money we’d saved for a new home so that I could attend the RWA conference and work out some issues with my editor. I thought the choice was the right one for our family long term.


Except my editor and I didn’t seem to understand one another better after meeting face to face, and I returned home to find both of my grandparents had taken a turn for the worse. I spent the month of August trying to be a mother while traveling to southern Oregon and central California to connect with and care for people who I knew didn’t have much time left.


Oh, and try to figure out how to write a new story when I didn’t comprehend what was wrong with the last four.


August ended with a sonic boom. We took the boys to my grandfather’s funeral in Stockton, and then stopped in Medford at my parents house for the night on the way home. It was then and there, on the day I’d buried my grandfather, that my grandmother also passed. Thankfully I got to hold her hand.


Writing took a back seat as I mentally healed from the shock, only to find out a few weeks later that our family would be expanding unexpectedly. I knew this would change my writing goals for the year, but after the previous month, even my latest rejection didn’t phase me. If anything, it gave me the courage to go to my former editor and ask for her intervention in the problem.


I seemed to be keeping my head above water. Until my aunt died.


Six weeks, three deaths, one baby on the way. My creativity shut down, my mind set on permanent stun. And then we got some scary test results about the pregnancy. (No worries now, she’s genetically perfect.) I tried to write. I made every effort, tried dozens of writer’s block techniques that had done well for others. But what I write – light and flirty contemporary – didn’t flow with how I felt. Dark, scared, unsure.


And so I did the one thing all the ‘get over writers block’ tips tell you not to. I stepped away from the keyboard and gave it time. I read and walked and people watched until my mind started spinning again, until I began reworking endings to stories I was reading in my head.


Just like an athlete must rest after a physical injury, writers need to take a break after an emotional crisis. Yes, writing can be cathartic, and you can channel all that emotion into your work. But what we do as authors gives so much of ourselves, we need to make sure we have enough to give away before we push to the brink.


If I had pushed, I don’t think I’d even be writing this now. Writer’s block can be worked through, but emotional block takes time and patience. Don’t berate yourself when you miss opportunities because you need to heal.


When life hands you lemons, they will keep until you’re ready to make the lemonade. After all, romance writing is about the healing power of love, and we must love ourselves first.

Featuring...ME

I'm one of the featured authors this month at The Romance Studio, which is fun...except the Samhain buy links changed with the upgrade of My Bookstore And More. Isn't that always the way?

I was worried about Par For The Course...coming out during RWA, having a sports theme, releasing while MB&M did their upgrade...I shouldn't have bothered worrying. It's already #8 on the best seller list :)